Past is past: Moving On 101

A wise man once sat in the audience and cracked a joke. All laughed like crazy. After a moment he cracked the same joke again and a little less people laughed this time. He cracked the same joke again and again, and there’s no laughter in the crowd at all. He smiled and said, “When you can’t laugh on the same joke again and again, then why you keep crying over the same thing over and over again.”

          Past is a nice place to visit but certainly not the good place to stay. Memories from the past are not all blissful. Some of them have remnants of pain, angst and grievances that made up the dark shadows of the past that make us feel nostalgic most of the time. Many people are still living with these shadows overhead and cannot bury all those negative memoirs and burdens they had before.

          Well, it’s really not that easy to vanish instantly all the pain and sorrow. The ghost of the past seems to follow all the time and there’s a feeling that you want to escape from this nostalgia but you can’t.

But of course, we cannot live forever with those heavy baggage from the past because it will definitely affect our life in the present as well as the future. So the best approach --- moving on.

Moving on is such a heavy word, indeed it’s so easy to advise someone to do the thing but doing this in action is far tougher than as you think. But at the end of the day, no one can help you to erase these shadows, only yourself.

 Speak to yourself and ask if it is worth the effort to be sentimental over the things from the past? Is it worth the tears? Do I deserve all of these agonies and emotional tortures? Definitely, all the answers should be a big “NO!”

So stand and put into trash all the bitterness and pain from the past. Treat all of these as lessons and face the present with courage and faith.

Life is not about looking back and wishing that today is the same with the past. Life is about moving on, accepting changes and looking forward to what makes you stronger & more complete. Because it's never too late to have a life and never too late to change one.

Just like the old sayings goes, “past is past” and “let bygones be bygones”.  More so, as what the song tells, “So let’s not bring the past back anymore.” Because all you have to do is let go of the past and the past will let go of you.